Being intimidating good

How did I not realize Sonia's beauty was making me look like an ugly ducking?

"Mara, none of the mothers talk to me, I smile and act friendly, but they just stare at me, and I feel ignored." When she asked how I dealt with people staring at me, I quickly told her they are only staring at me because they are wondering how someone could possibly wear some of my outfits in public. "Women are intimidated by your beauty." I don't want to believe it, but women measure themselves against other women's attractiveness. She’s well educated, with a rapier wit and a willingness to use it. And yet, Friday still remains the most lonely night of the week when she sees all of the happy, laughing couples making plans, having romantic dinners and enjoying the sex while she’s at home with Fringe on the DVR and a bottle of Malbec breathing in the kitchen. Well, whenever she’s interested in a guy – a guy who’s worth her time, because what’s the point of having standards if she’s not going to stick to ‘em? She’s done it all; dating sites, meeting guys at cons, the comic store, chatting up friends from class and at work.Being told “You’re too intimidating” is incredibly aggravating to women.After all, women are encouraged to be assertive, accomplished and independent; being told that they’re “intimidating” sounds like they’re being told to take all of that back and pretend to be something less than what they are. Are geek guys finding a woman’s accomplishments to be somehow threatening? Because “intimidating” is so subject to personal interpretation, I thought it was best to go to the source: geek guys.

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